Goodbye…I’m Now Moving Forward…♥️💗

Hello everyone 🙂….

I’m changing my life, around my anxiety and depression…

I’m living a life that’s freely….and to the fullest,

I’ve got new opportunities, ahead of me

I write my poetry in the quietest of places…like a park or a beach 🏖 when taking a holiday, and having that creative imagination…with the silence around me….

There is certain things that I had written in a rehabilitation centre at the beginning of last year….

But now I’m turning it into something positive…let’s see if we can do this together…😄

What makes you want to try and go forward…..in life with mental health 😊…

Moving forward….a poem to hopefully inspire you…😘..

Moving forward is something that we need to do…

Being positive and spirited…

To pull us all the way through….

Taking that step can sometimes be scary….

As with our mental health we can struggle so barely….

I know it can be hard for us to put that one step forward in life….

But we can definitely see a ray of hope

And finally see a new light….

The light can guide us in the right direction

Showing us that we can move forward in every possible way…

To make that step forward

And trying to stay as strong as can be…

As moving forward can definitely be new for all of we….

Travelling as always been my goal…. so happily being my own person…as independent as can be….😊

I love places…around nature….🐴🌿🦩🦦🍁⛰

We can create our own life and take charge of ourselves…and not let our anxiety and depression take over…we are in this together..always remember that….♥️✌🏼

Cheerio, take care 😘 xx

White Is My Vibrant Colour…Poetry Is Good For Our Mental Health…🤍❄️

Colour Poem
As white as a snowflake….

White crystal snow….coming down…

Balancing on the tree branches…..and rooftops…

Children getting excited….planning to go outside to play…

Wanting to build a snowman, or riding a sleigh…

Laughter, and cheering..as happy as children can be…

Snowball fights.. and fun… so beautiful to see…

Later that evening, as the white crystal snow draws in…

Slowly thawing to ice…

Turning so thin….

With the cover of white disappearing so quickly from our sights within…

My poetry I would love to share…♥️

Supporting The Community With Being Homeless And Mental Health 💖💛

Hi, my lovelies 😉…

The reason for doing this post.. as inspired me so much of trying to help find our true self…with the mental health we endure…as I’ve been helping the community with the samaritans.. who find it difficult..with anxiety disorders, depression, homelessness, and eating disorders, and people living in shelters with mental health issues…

I’ve travelled with others in the community and… visiting people.. and giving food from food banks to help them survive….but living with a mental illness as you well know can be very daunting and upsetting,

Displaying many issues.. like anorexia.. and depression, I’d spoken to several people.. about finding self worth, and to finding their true self..and what their dreams and goals mean to them….

The samaritans campaign……is to help you because you are not alone, we’re here to listen….♥️

Discovering the way some people live and are in desperate need of friends, Jobs, food, and to try and earn a decent living…this really opened my eyes…💔

One was dealing with suicidal tendencies…because of mental health, and self harm…he explained the reason though I won’t go into detail..which brought tears to my eyes, he was really struggling.. most hard, I put together a few pennies to buy food.. and a hot drink..💔

Loneliness is sometimes the key to mental health issues…😢 and it’s so upsetting to see,

When going out into the community, and taking calls as a volunteer….can be very sad, because even though I’ve suffered mental health issues myself… I’m far lucky then these people…it’s also very hurtful when children are involved, which is devastating and heartbreaking 💔

But doing things for the community, gives me a sense of happiness and something fulfilling..as I feel so humble to be able to give something back to others….😘💛

Take care..xx

How We Can Achieve Our Goals…. With Having Mental Health…..♥️💗♥️

Hello Peep’s…😊

Something has inspired me to doing this post as many people have struggles of achieving their goals…💔

As we know it can be hard…due to our emotions and anxieties… things that make us extremely anxious 😥…but I thought this is for me and nobody else..💗

I have started a whole new dream.. of being creative..regarding my poetry..😊 and working towards my adolescent and children counselling level 4..as I’ve applied for a placement in manchester..as I already love to travel aswell…

Many people love to do something creative…

Write a book…

Look after children…

Teach new languages…

If you want to write a novel….try creative writing classes, also there are some really good apps on apple 🍏..

These are amazingly good..and you can learn much easier….and can guide you to write and achieve your goals of creativity..😁.

I know people have anxieties..and sometimes struggle of being with a group of people.. like myself…and it can be very daunting…

The apps above… is teaching me with my poetry and writing my first novel 😊

Teaching a new language…spanish or french…

This is the best way.. to learn a new language.. to yourself and others….

This will help conquer your anxiety and depression.. in learning to your best ability.. like myself..it will make you feel good and better about yourself…with the goals that you can achieve with mental health…♥️

My poetry and writing classes help me cope with my anxiety and depression… ❤️🧡💛💚

And travelling to me is also good… feeling the fresh air and seeing inspirational thoughts…💖

You got this my lovelies..take care..😘.

Xxx

Bullying That Can Destroy A Person With Mental Health….😢💔.

Hi, my sweetie’s…✌🏼

The disgusting abuse being hurled at various women in the public eye via two days ago, the recent reports of the sickening trolling of teenagers and adults driven to suicide has lead me to think about my own experiences of bullying…..

Having been picked on at primary School, bullied of how many years of secondary school, I suffered bullying in many forms…but was lucky to survive…

I consider myself fairly well placed to speak on the subject. Perhaps it could be a future Mastermind subject? “Kim you have 60 seconds to answer questions on your specialist subject bullying”, but I digress.

Sadly bullying blights the life of many people and it’s not just kids. In the age of social media “adult bullying” for want of a better term is on the rise. I think people are finding it more acceptable to harass and insult each other across all sorts of mediums. Whilst the media focuses on the extreme examples and their tragic consequences I’d like to tell my own story.

I’ve never been popular, I was never allowed in their group because I was out of their league…. When I was at primary school although I was picked on, called fat and stupid – the normal stuff, it was bearable. Secondary school was a whole different story. The saddest thing is that I consider my experience to be one of the lesser cases of bullying that I witnessed in my year group. I feel like I was lucky only to have been physically bullied on a small number of occasions…

“The old saying that “sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me” is woefully untrue.”

Imagine five years of your life where you are being told daily that you are ugly, fat, stupid and thick…add to this regular teenage angst and you have a recipe for a mental health disaster….

Oddly my depression and anxiety, although directly connected to the bullying, didn’t come on until after school. I think that because I had the most amazing time at my adult work life with the friends than I did have from school, it has wiped away the memories and insecurities for 20 glorious years. It was when this was over that the memories and feelings returned and mutated into serious mental health problem .

The media usually concentrate on the immediate after effects of bullying but the truth is the effects reach further than you can imagine.I left school an entire decade ago, yet I can still feel like that isolated 13 year old with everyone laughing at her. Even after seven years of medication, counselling and talking therapies, I’m paranoid about what people think after comments made over 30 years ago.

I’m not trying to write a “woe is me” blog, as many people have come through far worse experiences and I have so much respect for their strength and resilience. However I really think there is an argument for talking about the long-term effects of bullying long after school is over.

“If someone was to explain, frankly and openly how much the actions of others have affected them down the line would that make kids (or even adults) stop and think how they treat people?”

If even one bully was stopped in their tracks as a result of being shown the damage they are doing then that’s one less person suffering now and potentially in the future.

If you are reading this and are being bullied, then first of all *massive hugs*, secondly well done on being brave and coping every day. At the risk of sounding like a cliché it will get better, in little ways you will be able to fight back. Maybe not whilst you are at school but in the future you will have moments when you look back and think “ha! if you could see me now” (one of mine was becoming successful and travelling all around the world ). One of the ways I fought back was by taking pride in being different, it gave me freedom to be myself and have friends who accepted me for me rather than someone trying to fit in with the in-crowd…..

So remember, no matter who you are, whether you’re 5, 15, 25 or 105 then you are better than the bullies. It will get better. If I can survive it, then so can you…..

The way we can stop the bullying and become more confident..👍🏻

Be smart and aware of everything. Study the surroundings for possible escape routes, hangouts, conflict zones, safe zones, and territorial boundaries. Be aware of the bully’s patterns including possible connections, as most bullies have a pack of underlings. Knowing the enemy and the surroundings could mean a lot when evading but, most importantly, during a direct confrontation…

  • Be confident when walking about. Walk with a purposeful confidence and a don’t-you-dare-mess-with-me attitude. Walk with your head up looking forward in the direction you are walking and use your peripheral vision to be aware of the people around you. No matter how untrue it feels to you, act confident and stand tall. Everyone will be none the wiser….

Learn a few self-defense moves. This is very important should you need to fight (which hopefully you won’t). You don’t need a black belt, just tips on self-defense. Do so with all your strength, and do so without reluctance.

  • A quick kick in the groin will make the person feel dazed and look embarrassed long enough for an escape. Bullies aren’t always used to others getting the best of them.
  • If the groin doesn’t work, try the solar plexus (right below the ribs), or kick a knee to make the person trip.
  • If the bully is grabbing you or pushing you, believe it or not, it’s actually an advantage. Try really hard to keep your balance, grab one of their arms with your left hand and hit their elbow with the other, then using your other hand, push away the remaining arm.
  • Then when you get your first chance, run to get to a safe place and call for help.

Develop a deep understanding of yourself (and how great you are). Know your strengths, weaknesses, and goals. Know what you want and what you’re capable of. This self-assurance can be helpful when dealing with verbal bullies, as their words of insult won’t reach your core. Verbal bullies usually require an audience when dishing out insults and their words are rarely based on what’s true but rather what’s catchy.

  • Try to overcome the rumors: tell everyone it’s not true and that the bully just wants attention. Turn the negative spotlight back on them. Point out their bullying tendencies and how incredibly insecure and unhappy they must be to have to pick on others.
  • These insults and the way this person is treating you has nothing to do with reality, nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. This is their insecurity and unhappiness showing through. When they’re done with you, they’ll likely move onto someone else.

Don’t be tempted to bully back. The last thing you want to do is to sink to the bully’s level. While you should definitely point out why they’re bullying and find holes in their argument, never, ever, ever resort to behavior like theirs. That’s just another way of giving them power. It makes you as bad as them.

  • And if you do, you’re about to get in much as trouble as they are. If things do get crazy and the appropriate authorities get involved, no one would know who the actual bully is – you or them.

We are strong enough…to fight back at times for all the right reasons…but don’t be a victim of bullying..stand up for your rights…

My bullying had a massive impact on my life and mental illness..but now I’m as strong as ever..and you are too…100%..😘

Also do not be a victim of cyber bullying, if you are experiencing any of this…report it asap…as it can lead to devastating consequences…💔💔

Take care my lovelies..✌🏼♥️.

Our Mental Health Can Become Better….✌🏼♥️ We Are Inspirational People…💗 And I Believe In You All…😘

Hi everyone…🙂.

I know at the moment.. I’ve been trying to do something that’s creative and meaningful..🙂

But I’m not forgetting my roots of trying to help others….♥️✌🏼

Our mental health can become better…

1, Tell yourself something positive…

When we perceive our self and our life negatively, we can end up viewing experiences in a way that confirms that notion. Instead, practice using words that promote feelings of self-worth and personal power. For example, instead of saying, “I’m such a loser. I won’t get the job because I tanked in the interview,” try, “I didn’t do as well in the interview as I would have liked, but that doesn’t mean I’m not going to get the job.”…

2, Write down something you are grateful for…

Gratitude has been clearly linked with improved well-being and mental health, as well as happiness. The best-researched method to increase feelings of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or write a daily gratitude list. Generally contemplating gratitude is also effective, but you need to get regular practice to experience long-term benefits. Find something to be grateful for, let it fill your heart, and bask in that feeling…..

3, Focus on one thing..(in the moment).

Being mindful of the present moment… allows us to let go of negative or difficult emotions from past experiences that weigh us down. Start by bringing awareness to routine activities, such as taking a shower, eating lunch, or walking home. Paying attention to the physical sensations, sounds, smells, or tastes of these experiences helps you focus. When your mind wanders, just bring it back to what you are doing.

4, Exercise

Your body releases stress -relieving and mood-boosting endorphins before and after you work out, which is why exercise is a powerful antidote to stress, anxiety, and depression. Look for small ways to add activity to your day, like taking the stairs instead of the elevator or going on a short walk. To get the most benefit, aim for at least 30 minutes of exercise daily, and try to do it outdoors. Exposure to sunlight helps your body produce vitamin D, which increases your level of serotonin in the brain. Plus, time in nature is a proven stress reducer.

5, Eat a good meal…

What you eat nourishes your whole body, including your brain. Carbohydrates (in moderate amounts) increase serotonin, a chemical that has been shown to have a calming effect on your mood. Protein-rich foods increase norepinephrine, dopamine, and tyrosine, which help keep you alert. And vegetables and fruits are loaded with nutrients that feed every cell of your body, including those that affect mood-regulating brain chemicals. Include foods with Omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids (found in fish, nuts, and flaxseed.) Research shows that these nutrients can improve mood and restore structural integrity to the brain cells necessary for cognitive function.

6, Open up to someone.

Knowing you are valued by others is important for helping you think more positively. Plus, being more trusting can increase your emotional well-being because as you get better at finding the positive aspects in other people, you become better at recognizing your own. 

7 Do something for something else.

Knowing you are valued by others is important for helping you think more positively. Plus, being more trusting can increase your emotional well-being because as you get better at finding the positive aspects in other people, you become better at recognizing your own.

Research shows that being helpful to others has a beneficial effect on how you feel about yourself. Being helpful and kind—and valued for what you do—is a great way to build self-esteem. The meaning you find in helping others will enrich and expand your life.

8, Take a break.

In those moments when it all seems like too much, step away, and do anything but whatever was stressing you out until you feel a little better. Sometimes the best thing to do is a simple breathing exercise: Close your eyes and take 10 deep breaths. For each one, count to four as you inhale, hold it for a count of four, and then exhale for another four. This works wonders almost immediately.

9 Go the bed on time.

A large body of research has shown that sleep deprivation has a significant negative effect on your mood. Try to go to bed at a regular time each day, and practice good habits to get better sleep. These include shutting down screens for at least an hour before bed, using your bed only for sleep or relaxing activities, and restricting caffeinated drinks for the morning.

Start today. You have the power to take positive steps right now to improve your resilience and emotional health. Don’t wait until you’re in a crisis to make your mental health a priority. Besides, it is easier to form new habits when you are feeling strong. You can then implement those habits when you need them most. Pick something from this article that resonates with you and try it. Then, try something else. Slowly putting in place routines, habits, and regular patterns will help you feel better through gradual change.

Believe in yourself…..

I believe we can do this….and I believe in you all….♥️♥️

💗💗

I have learned that I can be more positive and confident in myself..and you can aswell 100%…♥️

At the moment I’m doing a counselling level 4… to take the next career path….😊 it’s my absolute dream, I’m now back on the samaritans regime..as a listening volunteer as it was my first shift back this evening!!! and it was so great 😀….to be back my counsellor andrea as given me signs and signals to reach my goals…and I definitely believe you can too…stay as strong as ever…

I’ve been so unhappy again lately…with anxiety and depression…but now I absolutely feel the doors have opened…..✌🏼🦋

Thank you so much…to you all in taking the time of reading my posts..it means so much to me…😃…as you all do..💋🥰

Xx

Puppies for Sale (Understanding)

A shop owner placed a sign above his door that said: “Puppies For Sale.”

Signs like this always have a way of attracting young children, and to no surprise, a boy saw the sign and approached the owner;…

“How much are you going to sell the puppies for?” he asked….

The store owner replied, “Anywhere from $30 to $50.”

The little boy pulled out some change from his pocket. “I have $2.37,” he said. “Can I please look at them?”

The shop owner smiled and whistled. Out of the kennel came Lady, who ran down the aisle of his shop followed by five teeny, tiny balls of fur….

One puppy was lagging considerably behind. Immediately the little boy singled out the lagging, limping puppy and said, “What’s wrong with that little dog?”…

The shop owner explained that the veterinarian had examined the little puppy and had discovered it didn’t have a hip socket. It would always limp. It would always be lame…

The little boy became excited. “That is the puppy that I want to buy.”

The shop owner said, “No, you don’t want to buy that little dog. If you really want him, I’ll just give him to you.”

The little boy got quite upset. He looked straight into the store owner’s eyes, pointing his finger, and said;…

“I don’t want you to give him to me. That little dog is worth every bit as much as all the other dogs and I’ll pay full price. In fact, I’ll give you $2.37 now, and 50 cents a month until I have him paid for.”

The shop owner countered, “You really don’t want to buy this little dog. He is never going to be able to run and jump and play with you like the other puppies.”

To his surprise, the little boy reached down and rolled up his pant leg to reveal a badly twisted, crippled left leg supported by a big metal brace. He looked up at the shop owner and softly replied, “Well, I don’t run so well myself, and the little puppy will need someone who understands!”….

Xx 😘

Control Your Temper (Anger)

There once was a little boy who had a very bad temper. His father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the fence….

On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails into that fence…..

The boy gradually began to control his temper…over the next few weeks, and the number of nails he was hammering into the fence slowly decreased….

He discovered it was easier to control his temper than to hammer those nails into the fence.

Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father the news and the father suggested that the boy should now pull out a nail every day he kept his temper under control….

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence….

“you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.”

Moral of the story:

Control your anger, and don’t say things to people in the heat of the moment, that you may later regret . Some things in life, you are unable to take back…..

Xx 😘

The Butterfly (Struggles)

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.

One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole.

Until it suddenly stopped making any progress and looked like it was stuck…..

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings…..

The man didn’t think anything of it and sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. But that didn’t happen. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with tiny wings and a swollen body….

Despite the kind heart of a man, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small opening; were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings. To prepare itself for flying once it was out of the cocoon….

Moral of the story:

Our struggles in life develop our strengths. Without struggles, we never grow and never get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not be relying on help from others….

Xx 😘