Hello my lovelies 😜💛✌🏼👊🏻
Well happy new year 🥳 and all the best for 2020….
A fresh new year will be the start of a happy beginning hopefully for us all…😊.
Here are some tips we can improve in the new year.. of our mental illness..🤞🏻.
1. Always Learn Something New
Perhaps you have achieved success in your career — only to find you want more.
If you feel stagnant in what you are doing for work or are bored with your day-to-day, expand your options.
One way to make yourself more competitive in various career fields is pursuing further education. Most of us don’t have the bandwidth to invest in attending classes on a college campus.
Luckily, online universities are nationally recognized and more affordable than traditional in-classroom schooling. Consider signing up for some asynchronous online classes that fit your work schedule so you don’t have to interrupt your life to get ahead.
2. Take Steps to Face Your Fears
It is amazing how many of our decisions are based on fear. We fail to take risks, avoid conversations, and miss opportunities because we are afraid of the outcomes.
Here’s the deal:
Taking risks, within reason, can change your life overnight. If you have had your eye on the cutie at your local coffee shop, take a shot and ask them out for a drink. The worst that can happen to you is a slightly bruised ego. Even if they are already in a relationship or simply uninterested, your flattery may have made their day.
Don’t go through life with too many regrets. Going back to that coffee shop after being turned down is just another opportunity to face your fears.
3. Maintain a Meaningful Social Circle
Most of us have heard the timeless adage “you are as good as the company you keep.” Expanding your horizons to include new and interesting people might be the spice in life you were looking for.
Take a holistic view of your friends, family and professional relationships. Make a mental checklist of the relationships that most positively affect you and why. Take that checklist with you the next time to go to a social event. Try to strike up a conversation with new and interesting people that check those boxes.
While you’re out being a social butterfly, don’t forget where this exercise started. Be sure to not leave your old, longtime friends in the dust while fostering new friendships and relationships. You don’t want to be “that guy” in your friend circle.
4. Find Healthy Ways to Cope With Anxiety
Here’s the kicker:
Anything you do to relax can be done in excess: exercise, watching Netflix, drinking, or shopping. Be sure to choose an activity that works to relieve your anxiety in a manner that is healthy and can done in moderation.
5. Become Part of a Movement
You know all the hours you spend scrolling through social media idolizing other people’s lives? Well, they could be better spent.
As humans, we naturally seek out a connection with others and desire to feel as if we are needed. Finding a cause to get behind can help you to feel as if you are contributing to the common good. Whether it is a social justice issue or an environmental movement, there are many different opportunities to focus your time and energy to help you feel needed.
This doesn’t necessarily mean you need to be protesting every weekend to feel as if you are creating change. Making small changes in your life can make a big impact.
Using your consumer power to only support businesses who have sustainability at the forefront of their business practices is a powerful choice. It is small actions like this that have caused big businesses to reevaluate how they conduct business. Feel empowered by spending your dollars wisely.
6. Take Ownership
It is all too easy to move through life as a passive passenger. The good news is that you don’t have to give up anything in your life to regain control over it.
Take ownership over your life by taking control of a particular aspect of your life. It could be as simple as no longer being a public transport passenger and instead, using your own body’s physical power to get you to your destination.
Knowing that you can depend on yourself to make your morning commute is incredibly empowering. Free yourself of passivity and become the captain of your own ship.
7. Pay Attention to Your Dreams
If you feel unfulfilled in your life but aren’t sure why, try tapping into the esoteric side of life. Diving into your subconscious can be liberating and freeing if you allow yourself the mental space to do it.
Not everyone remembers their dreams, but you can train your brain by keeping a dream journalnext to your bed. Dreams can reveal unconscious hopes and fears that we either ignore or prefer to be unburdened with during our waking lives.
Understanding what your dreams mean is like learning a new language — requiring you to pay attention to clues, signs, and symbols. 
If you are the type of person to remember having recurring dreams, pay attention! Your subconscious is sending you a message. However, here’s the catch:
There are many activities that you can do to clear and refresh your mind. Here are examples of activities that have been very enriching for me and have led me toward a more positive and mentally healthy life:
- Create a to-do list of short-term and long-term goals that you want to complete
This may vary from reconnecting with an old friend you have not seen in a while, to taking more time to do enjoy a nice cup of coffee. Think of dreams you have always wanted to achieve – it does not matter how big or small. Having a set of goals can give you a sense of purpose in life and guide you toward your desired path.
- Try to improve your physical health
Engaging in physical activity has been scientifically proven to play an important role in sustaining mental health and well-being. With the advent of an active lifestyle, usually a healthy diet tends to follow. Now, I do not expect you to throw away all processed foods in your pantry and go shopping for expensive workout gear. Renewal of the mind, body and spirit is a journey, and is successful when practiced gradually. An idea would be to try walking 3-4 times a week, or eat dark chocolate instead of a doughnut or other sugary snack.
- Begin to renew your spirit
Practicing yoga and/or meditation can do wonders for the cleansing of the mind. You will begin to acknowledge the flow of thoughts circulating in your mind and skillfully dismiss them with acceptance and non-judgment. Research studies on the power of meditation have reported a significant reduction in negative energy and number thoughts consuming your day. Inwardly attending through the practice of yoga, meditation or another spiritual practice encourages self-awareness to help you attune to your physical and emotional needs.
- Work on improving your stress management skills
Try your best not to dwell on issues that are out of your control. Learning to accept the situation for all that it entails is an important skill in reducing stress. Also, pay attention to what triggers your stress responses to learn and prepare for the next instance. Knowing which situations make you uncomfortable can minimize distress and encourage better coping behaviors. Counselors and other mental health professionals are great resources to help you develop the skills needed to better manage your stress and anxiety.
- Actively contribute to your community
This may include volunteering for a cause or issue that you truly care about. Helping out a neighbor, or tending a community garden can help you feel good about yourself and your place in the world. An effort to improve the lives of others is surely going to improve your life too.
And last but not least, live in the here and now. Take a moment to notice the sun and wind on your face, and notice the air you are breathing. Sometimes we are distracted with tasks and responsibilities we forget to appreciate life’s precious moments. Learn how to bring your attention into the moment using mindfulness meditation or any other mental exercises you see fit. Making a conscious effort to notice and understand your inner and outer world at this very moment can improve your mental health.
So as we move from winter to spring, let’s make sure to take the time to evaluate our mental health. What are some of the helpful habits or practices that help you in your mental health spring cleaning?
One day I finally grasped that unexpected things..were always going to happen in life.. and with that she I realized the only control she had was how..I chose to handle them..so I made the decision to survive using courage, humour and grace I felt like the queen of my own life…and the choice was mine…and the choice can be be yours too..😊.
Well that’s it for now my happy friends.. take care..♥️💛💚💙🤎
Take care…happy new year…🥂..xx