Hello My Pals!!! Hope you are all okay…..🥰
First off…. I want to say a big thank you, for taking your time to read my posts…..and becoming my followers, because without you guys I wouldn’t be doing this!!!! and we are all in this together..I’m with you every step of the way 100%…..😊😊
Loneliness can be feelings of being personal, so everyone’s loneliness will be different. One thing I had learned is the difference between feeling alone and feeling lonely and how we feel lonely in a crowd full of people, but quite peaceful and content when alone….
You may have lots of social contact, or be in a relationship or part of a family, and still feel lonely especially if you don’t feel understood or cared for by the people around you….
My anxiety and depression isolated me from people, and stopped me from being able to do the things I’d like to do so socially I avoided it anyway I could…and now I’ve turned a different corner….
What causes loneliness?
Loneliness has many different causes, which vary from person to person. We don’t always understand what it is about an experience that makes us feel lonely.
For some people, certain life events may mean they feel lonely, such as:
- experiencing a bereavement
- going through a relationship break-up
- retiring and losing the social contact you had at work
- changing jobs and feeling isolated from your co-workers
- starting at university
- moving to a new area or country without family, friends or community networks.
Other people find they feel lonely at certain times of the year, such as around Christmas.
Some research suggests that people who live in certain circumstances, or belong to particular groups, are more vulnerable to loneliness. For example, if you:
- have no friends or family
- are estranged from your family
- are a single parent or care for someone else – you may find it hard to maintain a social life
- belong to minority groups and live in an area without others from a similar background
- are excluded from social activities due to mobility problems or a shortage of money
- experience discrimination and stigma because of a disability or long-term health problem, including mental health problems
- experience discrimination and stigma because of your gender, race or sexual orientation.
When I suffered from anorexia it fed into so many areas of life. It was all consuming. One of those areas was loneliness. It was something that I felt for such a long time…..
This can be an ongoing cycle of feelings associated with loneliness that is based around our mental health…for me it was a time to change it….and push myself to the extreme of feeling comfortable around others…I used to cry most of the time, saying in my head…lord what if I’m like this forever, what if I can’t find someone who loves me for who I’am…what if I can’t achieve want I want to do..in which is travelling…as I have an interest in travelling and tourism!!! but I started to look at things differently, like “you can do this” kim…👍🏻 with what I achieved in my life… of looking after others and achieving my training goals as I do hold 3 A levels in NVQs of mental health care… and my mandatory training’s I should be proud right?…then I can do this!!!! I’m willingly a strong person that won’t give up a fight….👊🏻
Anybody who feels a sense of loneliness or isolation….can focus on yourself and it will all come together I have every faith in people who try there very best to overcome certain issue’s associated with mental health…but please don’t give up fighting…keep living!!!!✌🏼♥️
These are tips to manage loneliness……..
- Take it slow
- Make new connections
- Try peer support
- Try to open up
- Talking therapies
- Social care
- Be careful when comparing yourself to others
- Look after yourself
I never felt lonely when I was in nature. I felt more connected than ever when I was walking alone through a wood or by a river……or sight seeing…..
I sometimes felt lonely when I was overwhelmed by human information – the news, social media, TV, negative gossip etc. – I felt so separated and different to most people with my low self esteem…but all that changed in believing in positive sites and having true faith in others….. and above all myself….
And you can try too I really believe that guys I really do!!!
Take Care Lots of Love and Sparkles…..✨