Low self esteem,Setting A Positive Life, Of Being Yourself, And Guiding Yourself In The Right Direction, With Mental Health…….

Hello my beautiful friends….. Hope you are all well!!

We can all expect the obvious reasons, that we all can not succeed…because of our mental health, and that’s the hardest thing to do, sometimes and it’s a huge struggle to cope with because of situations that can be extremely difficult to overcome.

Low self esteem….Issue’s!!! You are not alone….

We all have times when we lack confidence and don’t feel good about ourselves…

But when low self esteem becomes a long term problem, it can have a harmful effect on our mental health and our lives…..

What causes low self esteem…….

Low self esteem often begins in childhood, teachers, friends, siblings, and even media send us messages about ourselves, both positive, and negative.

For some reason, the message you aren’t good enough, is the one that stays with you.

Perhaps you found it difficult to live up to other people’s expectations of youor to your own expectations…

Stress, and difficult life events, such as serious illness.. or a bereavement, can have a negative effect on self esteem….

That’s what happened to me in my childhood, when I was going through depression…losing my dad and being bullied…

Personality can also play a part. Some people are just more prone to negative thinking, while others set impossibly high standards for themselves..

We are good enough!!!

How does low self esteem, affect us…..

If you have low self esteem or lack confidence, you may hide away from social situations, stop trying new things, and avoid things you find challenging…..

“In the short term, avoiding challenging and difficult situations can make you feel a lot safer…”

My social anxiety… was pretty difficult as I found them challenging , my self esteem was always in the the firing line, but getting myself to go out there and change my way of thinking was to push myself, as I sometimes tended to tell myself I’m a bit lazy…I was thinking it’s not going to come my way automatically….I needed to work hard. And I did, setting my goals and dreams.. of going to university. and definitely going to travel, and pass my driving licence without fail.. creativity to me is the key… as I tend to go on a college course… to do a creative writing programme for beginner’s..

Other ways to improve low self esteem..

Here are some simple techniques that may help you feel better about yourself…

Recognise what you’re good at.

We’re all good at something, whether it’s cooking, singing, doing puzzles or being a friend. We also tend to enjoy doing the things we’re good at, which can help boost your mood.

Build positive relationships.

If you find certain people tend to bring you down, try to spend less time with them, or tell them how you feel about their words or actions.

Seek out relationships with people who are posi

Be kind to yourself

Professor Williams advises: “Be compassionate to yourself. That means being gentle to yourself at times when you feel like being self-critical.

“Think what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation. We often give far better advice to others than we do to ourselves.”

Learn to be assertive

Being assertive is about respecting other people’s opinions and needs, and expecting the same from them.

Being assertive is about respecting other people’s opinions and needs, and expecting the same from them.

One trick is to look at other people who act assertively and copy what they do.

“It’s not about pretending you’re someone you’re not,” says Professor Williams. “It’s picking up hints and tips from people you admire and letting the real you come out.”

Start saying ‘no’.

People with low self-esteem often feel they have to say yes to other people, even when they don’t really want to.

The risk is that you become overburdened, resentful, angry and depressed.

“For the most part, saying no doesn’t upset relationships,” says Professor Williams. “It can be helpful to keep saying no in different ways until they get the message.”

Give yourself a challenge

We all feel nervous or afraid to do things at times. But people with healthy self-esteem don’t let these feelings stop them trying new things or taking on challenges.

Set yourself a goal, such as joining an exercise class or going to a social occasion. Achieving your goals will help to increase your self-esteem.

You can love and believe in yourself… by having strength and faith taking step by step…..

Take care everyone!!!

Cheerio!! x