Low self esteem,Setting A Positive Life, Of Being Yourself, And Guiding Yourself In The Right Direction, With Mental Health…….

Hello my beautiful friends….. Hope you are all well!!

We can all expect the obvious reasons, that we all can not succeed…because of our mental health, and that’s the hardest thing to do, sometimes and it’s a huge struggle to cope with because of situations that can be extremely difficult to overcome.

Low self esteem….Issue’s!!! You are not alone….

We all have times when we lack confidence and don’t feel good about ourselves…

But when low self esteem becomes a long term problem, it can have a harmful effect on our mental health and our lives…..

What causes low self esteem…….

Low self esteem often begins in childhood, teachers, friends, siblings, and even media send us messages about ourselves, both positive, and negative.

For some reason, the message you aren’t good enough, is the one that stays with you.

Perhaps you found it difficult to live up to other people’s expectations of youor to your own expectations…

Stress, and difficult life events, such as serious illness.. or a bereavement, can have a negative effect on self esteem….

That’s what happened to me in my childhood, when I was going through depression…losing my dad and being bullied…

Personality can also play a part. Some people are just more prone to negative thinking, while others set impossibly high standards for themselves..

We are good enough!!!

How does low self esteem, affect us…..

If you have low self esteem or lack confidence, you may hide away from social situations, stop trying new things, and avoid things you find challenging…..

“In the short term, avoiding challenging and difficult situations can make you feel a lot safer…”

My social anxiety… was pretty difficult as I found them challenging , my self esteem was always in the the firing line, but getting myself to go out there and change my way of thinking was to push myself, as I sometimes tended to tell myself I’m a bit lazy…I was thinking it’s not going to come my way automatically….I needed to work hard. And I did, setting my goals and dreams.. of going to university. and definitely going to travel, and pass my driving licence without fail.. creativity to me is the key… as I tend to go on a college course… to do a creative writing programme for beginner’s..

Other ways to improve low self esteem..

Here are some simple techniques that may help you feel better about yourself…

Recognise what you’re good at.

We’re all good at something, whether it’s cooking, singing, doing puzzles or being a friend. We also tend to enjoy doing the things we’re good at, which can help boost your mood.

Build positive relationships.

If you find certain people tend to bring you down, try to spend less time with them, or tell them how you feel about their words or actions.

Seek out relationships with people who are posi

Be kind to yourself

Professor Williams advises: “Be compassionate to yourself. That means being gentle to yourself at times when you feel like being self-critical.

“Think what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation. We often give far better advice to others than we do to ourselves.”

Learn to be assertive

Being assertive is about respecting other people’s opinions and needs, and expecting the same from them.

Being assertive is about respecting other people’s opinions and needs, and expecting the same from them.

One trick is to look at other people who act assertively and copy what they do.

“It’s not about pretending you’re someone you’re not,” says Professor Williams. “It’s picking up hints and tips from people you admire and letting the real you come out.”

Start saying ‘no’.

People with low self-esteem often feel they have to say yes to other people, even when they don’t really want to.

The risk is that you become overburdened, resentful, angry and depressed.

“For the most part, saying no doesn’t upset relationships,” says Professor Williams. “It can be helpful to keep saying no in different ways until they get the message.”

Give yourself a challenge

We all feel nervous or afraid to do things at times. But people with healthy self-esteem don’t let these feelings stop them trying new things or taking on challenges.

Set yourself a goal, such as joining an exercise class or going to a social occasion. Achieving your goals will help to increase your self-esteem.

You can love and believe in yourself… by having strength and faith taking step by step…..

Take care everyone!!!

Cheerio!! x

A Way To Look At Things In A Different Light…Try Loving And Believing In Yourself First…💜🌷

This year as been the hardest for me.. I’ve always had a struggle with Isolation, depression, anxiety, a number of eating disorders… low self esteem, social anxiety, binge eating, as you have read in my previous blogs… and trying to communicate in helping others… I’ve had help to overcome these situations as I’ve spent recent months in a rehab centre …💔

And now I’ve found the courage to stand on my own two feet without being afraid….a lot of my past had something to do with the way that I was living, esp… with isolation.

People do have a difficult time in their lives of living and struggling with mental Illness, bipolar, manic depression, anxiety, panic attacks etc,….

This could be the hardest situation that you are in… and I get that, I really do, but you must have the courage to look at your life and think, one step at a time… do a journal of thoughts and feelings, set out your goals, things that interest you…

The picture above… shows my plan of reaching my goal that I focused on, and having trust, hope, faith, and belief… many people have a struggle setting out these goals esp with what they are facing or what they are going through….

Take social media for instance, instagram, facebook, twitter, pinterest, and the affect it does have on mental health, but in another way we can look at it, we can work harder for what we want…maybe I’m making it sound as easy as that…. but you need to believe in yourself, and love yourself more no matter the situations.

I agree it can be upsetting when we see people being happy and enjoying themselves..taking vacations, having money in their pocket, and it gets you thinking why can’t I do that…but that isn’t always the case, they could be having a more of a worse day then others..

Believe In Yourself…..

Believe in yourself and you can achieve.

Things you never thought possible.

Believe in yourself and you can discover.

New talents hidden inside you.

Believe in yourself and you can reach.

New heights that you thought immeasurable.

Believe in yourself and you can elucidate.

The problem that defies every solution.

Believe in yourself and you can tackle.

The hardest of all situations.

Believe in yourself and you can make.

The complicated things seem simple.

Believe in yourself and you can enjoy.

The beauty of nature’s creation.

Believe in yourself and you can learn.

Skills of gaining knowledge from experience.

Believe in yourself and you can discern.

New depths in your life.

Believe in yourself and you can perform.

Way beyond your expectations.

Believe in your aim and work towards it, with elation, determination and dedication, believe in yourself and you’ll feel blessed.

As you are god’s special creation……..✌

Make It Happen….
MAKE IT HAPPEN!!!!

When I was going through my childhood I was always considered the slow girl with no knowledge, I couldn’t even write things down on paper… or read where I was always in a foundation class than a higher education class to others… and children were cruel, my exams was always low in marks..I wasn’t good with numbers I had to find a way to learn new skills, but it was a struggle that I kept on giving up saying that I can’t do this….no no no.

Who as Inspirations… of music that helped you along the way of growing up, and believing in yourself… the video above, helped me find strength to say one day I will make it happen… I will achieve what I want…I started to go to college school to help me read and write even though at the time I had no interest, but in the long run I was happy of continuing to learn my goals..and as for others saying I’m finding it difficult… and keep giving up, need to start over again without failing I know it’s extremely hard… but you can start over each day!!! and ignore others… these happy people you are talking about you can look back and say I’m strong no matter the consequences…

No matter how hard you have had it in your life, as I have over recent months with mental Illness, things you want don’t fall into your lap I learned that this year…. push yourself to the extreme…going on vacations, on the beach, and other things.

Try setting yourself free…. as like next year, my plan is to go to university.. to start my counselling level 2 or becoming a talking therapist…Anyone struggling, tell me your interests… and goals, we all have a goal…

I’ve had to push myself so hard that I know that I can do anything without fail.. because I’ve always said to myself I’m weak and unhappy but I needed to change my way of thinking..we all have dreams, and when I’d choose the career I wanted, as a mental health profession, even though I caused a lot of stress in the long run. I’m very grateful and privileged of the way things did turn out for me… even though I have been in very dark places… with anxiety and depression, I push myself to say…..

Believe in yourself… as I’ve struggled myself, of being happy finding peace, and love….

Love will come your way, when you believe and heal yourself…It’s not going to come over night, but you will look back and say I’ve come this far ahead..And now I can help others and guide them to a new destiny…Be honest and true to yourself, and I’m sorry for the very long term of writing..But to me this is Important for you, as we all have a purpose in life.. never give up.

Easier said than done…but even though your going through a bad day!!! of unhappiness or having mood swings on and off day to day that can’t be helped…keep positive.

Okay my pals!!!

I feel better now I’ve done this blog!!!

Stay positive, Love, peace and happiness….

Cheerio….

Spiritual Healing…..In Mental Health…Poems Of Healing And Life….

Hello my lovelies, hope you are keeping well…..

I haven’t written in a while… as I’ve been going forward with new opportunities.

But I haven’t forgotten my roots of helping others to move forward, as I see a light in all of you, in healing our mental health…as some of you may never feel properly cured,and as we all can have good days and bad days……always focus on what the next day will bring…and think I’m going to stay positive today, YOU GOT THIS!!!…

Spiritual Healing…..

Powerful Poem About Life Lessons…….

Faith and courage is what will get you through this life……

In life there are people that will hurt us and cause us pain,

But we must learn to forgive and forget and not hold grudges,

In life there are regrets we will have to live with,

But we must learn to leave the past behind and realise it is something we cannot change,

In life there are people we will loose forever and can’t have back, but learn to let go and move on…

In life there are going to be obstacles that will cause interference, but we must learn to overcome these challenges and grow stronger…

In life there are fears that will hold us back from what we want, but we must learn to fight them with the courage from within,

God holds our lives in his hands, he holds the key to our future, only he knows our fate.

He sees everything and knows everything. Everything in life really does happen for a reason: “God’s Reason”…..

Before healing myself, I was in a very dark place…where I became extremely lost… and I didn’t know which way I was turning!!!….

There’s a cold dark corner in the back of my room,

It speaks to me and says I’m coming for you,

As I lie on my bed, wild thoughts run through my head,

As I lie in fetal position, my eyes are closed hoping and wishing,

Maybe that one day my dreams will come true, that I don’t have to be here so down and blue,

The corner keeps on telling me about how I’m going to die, all I can do is lie there and cry,

As the corner gets closer and takes me, my soul turns to burn as so does my skin,

My bones shall lie there turning to dust, my bed surrounding nothing but rust.

I read that poem over and over thinking that, when I heal my soul I’ll look back and think…..thank the lord I’ve survived away from that dark place….we all have strength and power to fight our demons, and we have a right to be on this earth for love and healing, even though we might face a brick wall that BRICK WALL CAN BE BROKEN!!!!!! and we can then mend our broken pieces.

Fighting with your illness, can be an extremely huge struggle when you are trying your damn hardest to pull yourself back up on the straight and narrow…. Here is a poem to establish, the difficulties many of you face!!!

Life is hard to live sometimes when the light inside no longer shines, Everything around you becomes so dark, You grab a knife and leave a mark! It makes me feel alive again! replacing fear and doubts with pain!

You hope to fill the emptiness, You fight to end of loneliness, You start to drink your pain away, drowning your sorrow day to day.

You quickly want to end your life! You sit alone holding the knife,

Failure now consumes your heart, hate and love is tearing you apart!,

The fear and pain controlling your mind, the hate inside you leaves you blind…

The bit of love you feel, someone with bipolar disorder.. it’s real It’s why you are here It’s for your love to remain, although you may fear your completely insane…….

However spiritual healing is a path of transformation, a journey that connects the body, heart and mind to free the soul….

This addresses physical, emotional, mental and spiritual toxins. In this way, we eliminate toxins that undercut the soul, we then release motion that splits the person away from themselves. And doing both allows the person to become whole…..

When I looked at spiritual healing myself… and my physical health, and my ways of getting healthy again I started to write down my own poetry and emotional stories on healing and faith and of course years of painful situations in my youth through childhood… I wanted to help and guide others through the healing process, as a few months ago my breakdowns spiralled out of control of loneliness and despair and going through anxiety and depression… even though I work in the mental health Industry myself, in can become very draining… even though I’m very dedicated…..

I’m going to leave you with one last poem….. a poem of healing and courage..

Having someone to help you is great,

Especially when they’re always there,

A poem can be good mate,

Lift you up when you can’t bear,

It can help you through the pain,

Never to leave you standing alone,

Guiding and healing till you rise again..

I need a healing in my soul,

Lord, give me a voice for my healing,

One that will cry out in the distance,

One that will ring out in the streets,

I need a healing for my future,

Lord give me a voice for my healing

One that can speak potential into being

One that with faith can act on your will…

Well we can heal and believe in spiritual healing as I did to help me guide my brightest future’s ahead, and believe me it can work for you guys to….never never let anybody discourage you.. because they do that honestly….

Take Care my sweetie’s…..Lots Of Love and happiness and peace coming your way…..

Cheerio!!!!….