Social Anxiety Can Cause A Major Impact On Our Mental Health, Of Loneliness, Isolation, And Above All Else Complete Fear…….
Dear Social Anxiety,
I know you resides in me,
You’re taking over me,
Like a phobia I’m scared,
So I built the walls. Put the barriers,
Here I’am away from everyone,
Safe and sound,
In my own comfy zone…….
My anxiety spiralled out of control, I suffered with a social phobia of being around people and having symptoms of panic attacks and a rapid heart rate of palpatations, my symptoms came in three categories- physical feelings, cognitive feelings, and behavioural feelings,
With social anxiety, my stomach churned, acid burned, that was to just visit friends, my heart needed interaction but I just wanted the night to all end.
My social phobia, in a sudden twisted-inward I’am lurched into an altered consciousness, of palpatating silent fear, fighting invisible strangling fingers of irrational thought.
Neurons are playing pin ball in my head, as someone else is looking through my eyes, at the people around me, who are all fine and well breathing normal air.
My heart desperately afraid, it runs and runs away so hard from a threat that exists, only in my mind but I’am distorted by panic, and my breathing betrays me my mind is clamouring wearily at me, to relax get a grip there is no cause for such extreme sensitivity, it is only my own self- consciousness, that nothing is really wrong…..
Hearing people laugh near you. Not talking because you’re afraid what you say will be judged, keeping quiet in a conversation with three people, not being able to go anywhere alone . Staying inside all day, hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact, eating in front of people, counting money before you pay. Not leaving voice mails, paying for things at a shop. Always preparing what to say, bumping into people you know, feeling embarrassed all of the time…….
This can be extremely terrifying, as I’ve experienced this myself and it can be so degrading that you just want to hide within your inner self…….please be strong!!!!
Social anxiety, had made me extremely upset, when I’m upset I shut myself down, I had no motivation for anything, I told myself that nobody cares, even though I know some did, I thought about all the negative things, I could possibly think of, I gave myself all the pain thinking I deserved it, I wasn’t sure why I did that, but that’s just how I’am
How I over-come my social anxiety, my mains goals ahead………. to a better outgoing life. Now I know that it’s a very difficult process as I used to be uncomfortable in a load of crowds thinking of what they thought of me, staring at me, making comments, but my friends, you can look at it another way, we can choose who we feel comfortable around. This to me goes with trust, if trusting the crowds that you feel associated with,[ you know] same interests, the same feelings as you, it will make a lot of difference of you feeling more comfortable[ as it did me] such as friends in the same boat as you,
Easier said than done, I know that esp when you have them thoughts in your head, which is being afraid, but we have the power to fight these thoughts of feeling afraid and being around people, by saying hang on NO I DESERVE TO BE HERE TOO right……
These are my goals I over- came from social anxiety that I once faced…….:]
1, Trying a self-help manual.
2, Work with a therapist.
if social anxiety is stopping you from doing things you want or need to do, or you haven’t had much success with self help, seek professional help like a therapist who specializes in anxiety disorders like cognitive behaviour, or negative thoughts,
3, Practice deep breathing everyday.
It’s helpful to engage in deep breathing before an anxiety provoking social situation occurs.
4, Create objective goals.
5, Keep a rational out look.
For instance, if you’re giving a speech, you’ll initially think “I’m going to bomb”, but if you’ve given speeches before and done well then this isn’t a rational or realistic perspective. You might say instead, “I’ve given speeches before. I’m prepared, and I’ll give it my best shot”.
This is what I used in my goals that I wrote down in my journal diary, and it helped me through my social anxiety in every way possible, as I tried to pick my own comfortable crowds without being judged of how I was, or how I looked, and what they thought of me, like I’m used to being around my co- workers and I started to go out on their get together’s and I felt comfortable because they knew me as a person, where I knew that I wouldn’t be judged or hurt in anyway,and I have to say it was good fun :D….
My pals, we shouldn’t deserve to be judged by what others think of us, as we deserve to enjoy ourselves as much, and please never ever forget that…..
Peace and love my friendly bloggers and above all else happiness. 😀 Cheerio!!!!! xx